Marriage
2004-07-06, 8:15 p.m.

Talked to Heidi today on the phone. I needed to find out if her and Peter were registered anywhere for gifts. She was like, "Oh, its so good to hear your voice." Jesus, why is she getting married? I know she doesn't love him. I also don't think my mom every really loved my dad. I think my mom just felt like she needed to get married. I think that is how Heidi feels, too. The pressure was on, and he was the guy that asked. I wonder how many marriages begin that way? Is my generation going to be any different? Most people I know are waiting until later in life to get hitched- like late 20's instead of early 20's like our parents. Is the divorce epidemic a result of societal pressures exerted on our parents to get hitched young, and then a few years later, throwing them into a society were it was all of a sudden OK, even NECESSARY in some cases, for a woman to earn her own living? Was marriage simply an extension of the classic hunting and nesting life style practiced by our ancestors? Now that both men and women hunt, the marriage idea seems to be coming unteathered. Women don't have to rely on men to provide for them anymore. But then who is there to nest? In a lot cases, the parents hire someone to nest for them while they're both out hunting- and in my opinion, the raising of your child is something you shouldn't be paying someone else to do for you. And what does that say about us as a society of consumers, where we no longer feel that one income is enough to raise our children? Is it because we buy more and more shit, or because we can't afford NOT to work two jobs? College tuition is a bitch, man. And so is health care. And private tennis lessons, and playstation games. But lets say the mom does stay home and nest? Then what happen when the nest is empty? I read a statistic that well over half of marriages that end in divorce when the members are over 40 are initiated by the woman. Will we fare better since we are waiting until our 30's to get married? More sure of what we want out of life? Or will we just end up getting divorced in our fifties instead? Or are we just not meant to stay together? Love is a fleeting thing. Sometimes you just wake up in the morning, and you realize its gone. It doesn't just vanish all of a sudden- its slips away quitely while you're not paying attention. It escapes when you stop appreciating what you have and start taking it for granted. After all, its hard to get excited about something as 'everyday' and familiar as your spouse. It takes effort to keep something like that alive. You have to look for things to keep you going and to keep you interested, because if there is one thing you can count on, its that those things are there if you're willing to open your eyes. People will always have the abilty to surprise you. Everyone wants to let a secret or two loose every now and then. It helps keep you on your toes......

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